Rather than a disquisition this time I’d like you to answer the question in the title. When you are trying to make a decision what questions pop into your head? What feelings threaten to overwhelm you? What little comments from some dead family member come out of your mouth?
Our unconscious is always running games on us. We think we are in charge but honestly that is more of a joke. We have to train our unconscious to cough up the negative feelings and experiences that keep us from deciding.
Normally when I work I write but when I am dealing with this kind of issue I use recorders. Get your MP3 player or phone turn on the recorder and say what you are trying to decide. Then sit back and ‘hear’ the stuff you say to yourself. As it comes in speak it out loud. Don’t edit. Just follow your train of thought and speak it.
Later go back and write down from the recording all the messages you ‘heard’ in the session.
If you want share, this with me and I’ll write about some of those issues.
Make this a fun thing. No angst.