We always have others putting a positive spin on problems. You’ll be told problems are an opportunity. They are a chance to get blockages out of your system. There are so many examples of putting the positive spin on things it’s hard to count. When you’re in the problem it is hard not to feel the issue and want to punch the person asking you to be positive.
A way to take a problem seriously emotionally but deal with it constructively is to ask a simple question, “What am I not clear about in this issue that has brought me to this?” This does several things. 1) It makes it clear that you are responsible for where you are, 2) it takes the emotion out of it and asks you to answer something in a way that will sharpen your insight 3) it will bring up other questions that will not only illuminate the problem but illuminate the path to solutions.
Searching for clarity with questions is a valued strategy for getting unstuck with any problem.
A problem is a construct that the and individual cannot comprehend because he is looking at that problem with the same emotion, eyes and everything else he had use to create it. As Einstein said we cannot solve a problem with the same mind we have created it with. great post Cliff showing us how to step out of the reality that have created the problem,
Karen Langston says
Sometimes we have to take a step back and look at the charge behind the reaction before we can get clarity. So, often we bring our hurt, traumas, frustration and anger into a current situation. In general we have not been taught to let go of our past traumas and instead we store them. When we get into a similar situation the present situation triggers a reaction; we go through a memory bank of stored traumas and look for a similar time and then react with this emotion. It is a judgment of the person and the situation although, in the present moment it has not been experienced instead we rely on past experiences to help us. The “spin” is an emotional trigger that keeps us in the past instead of seeing and being in the present moment. The questions we need to ask are “why am I reacting this way?” Does this remind me of something similar in my past?” Or, simply “What does this remind me of?”
If we let go of stored emotions of the past we become more clear. Clarity becomes the essence of being the more we work on our past, learned behaviours, sorrow, grief, anger and traumas.