We always have others putting a positive spin on problems. You’ll be told problems are an opportunity. They are a chance to get blockages out of your system. There are so many examples of putting the positive spin on things it’s hard to count. When you’re in the problem it is hard not to feel the issue and want to punch the person asking you to be positive.
A way to take a problem seriously emotionally but deal with it constructively is to ask a simple question, “What am I not clear about in this issue that has brought me to this?” This does several things. 1) It makes it clear that you are responsible for where you are, 2) it takes the emotion out of it and asks you to answer something in a way that will sharpen your insight 3) it will bring up other questions that will not only illuminate the problem but illuminate the path to solutions.
Searching for clarity with questions is a valued strategy for getting unstuck with any problem.